Fake Caregiver Red Flags
Fake Daddy, Fake Mommy, Fake Caregiver Red Flags and Warning Signs
- They claim themselves as your Caregiver instantly or without talking with you about that type of decision first. (Example, "Oh, you're looking for a Daddy Dom? I'll be your Daddy. You have to listen to me now. I'm your Daddy now.")
- They call themselves, "Daddy," "Mommy," or another Caregiver term to you right away before entering in a relationship or scene with you. (Example, you just started to chat with this person and haven't come to a mutual arrangement in letting them be your Caregiver but they say, "Well, Daddy wants you to...")
- They do not accept when you say, "No," or tell them about your boundaries (Example, "Don't tell me no. I'm your Mommy now and you have to do what I say," even though you just met or haven't come to a mutual agreement about them being your Caregiver.) (Another example is that try to use your boundaries as punishments. Boundaries are not for punishments.)
- They only really seem to want to talk about one subject. (Primarily, sexual topics often or all of the time.)
- They only want to talk to you when they choose instead of trying to make time to spend with you. (Example, they only chat with you when they want to talk about adult relations or only once a week or two, at random.)
- They don't ask questions about you, who you are, or what you like, how your day is going, or anything about your life. They don't seem to have an interest in getting to know you. (They only want to talk about what they want to talk about, what they like, what they want, etc.)
- They want revealing photos of you right away. (Example, even though you just met them or haven't gotten to know them well, they want to see you bare, mostly bare, diapered, etc.)
- Their interest in you was originally sparked when you revealed you were recently broken up with by another person. This is a red flag that they are looking for vulnerable people. They are looking to manipulate someone. They make it sound like they are everything you've always wanted and needed, and are quick to use phrases such as, "I would never do that to you."
- When you initially meet them they talk about how incredibly depressed they are due to a recent break-up or traumatic-sounding event (like the death of someone close to them). Be aware that they are setting the stage to sound like a vulnerable person. The important part to watch out for is that just as strongly as they were depressed they are just as quickly to fall "in love" with you and make it sound like you're a savior or angel to them. This is a huge sign that they are looking to manipulate someone through sympathy and will continue to lure you in to being vulnerable. Be on guard for manipulation through false suicide threats.
- They only want to offer you punishment and not praise. (Example, they rarely reward you but are quick to get to punishments over even minor things.)
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