A basic, easy-to-understand overview of CGL community participants
This forum is for: ageplayers, Ddlg or DDlb relationships, Mdlb and MDlg couples, ABDLs, and every other kind of Caregiver/little (or Big/little) type relationship that exists. These folks are roleplayers or childish in nature but are all of legal age physically. These relationship dynamics can be sexual or nonsexual, a constant 24 hours/7 days a week situation or sporadic.
In short, this forum is difficult to describe because it encompasses an entire community of wonderful, varied type of people sharing a similar type of typically-BDSM-like or Dominant/submissive idea. (Not all of these dynamics include domination, submissiveness, or BDSM situations though!
Generally, a "little
" is either childish in nature (personality-wise and interests) or enjoys roleplaying a part where they are giving up a piece of their adulthood. They could be giving this piece up to a Dominant ("Caregiver
") type person or could be enjoying their "littlespace
" by themselves or with other little friends.
Ageplay and the, generalized, Big/little lifestyles have changed dramatically in it's online presence over the past decade
. For example, a decade ago online users did searches for the kink "Daddy/daughter" or "ageplay" for material pertaining to their interest. Now, it's rarely referred to as "Daddy/daughter" or "ageplay" and has taken more-specific terms
such as Daddy Dominant/little girl, Adult Baby/Diaper Lover (ABDL), and Caregiver/little.
This being said, many folks in the scene may use different terms--and that's okay! Thankfully, we can still express ourselves, our interests, and our desires to make ourselves clearer to others. Just to clarify, no matter what our dynamic interest consists of, we are all are legal adults that are not participating in incestuous situations.
- What or who is an ageplayer?:
An ageplayer is just as it may sound. These are people who are simply roleplaying as an age they currently are not in real life. Ageplayers can be a younger adult roleplaying as an older adult or an any adult roleplaying as a younger person. This is, generally, a short-term or situational play. The ageplayer will take on the actions of the age they perceive to roleplaying as during their chosen time.
- What or who is a Big or Caregiver?:
A Big is typically in more of a older, caregiver role. Bigs are usually Daddies, Mommies, Uncles, or Aunties, Older or Big Brothers, Older or Big Sisters, etc. Bigs are usually more dominant (in charge, mature, responsible, guiding, leading, correcting, authoritative
) but not always.
- What does a Big or Caregiver do, exactly?:
The whole idea behind being a Big or Caregiver is just as it sounds. These are the types of people who have a lot of love and protection to offer to another person. They help guide a little through life, difficult situations, or adult encounters. Often, they take on some adult responsibilities that their 'little' counterparts give them in trust.
- What or who is a little?:
A little is typically in the younger role. Littles are usually babygirls or babyboys, little girls or little boys, middles, or teens. These could be daughters, sons, nieces, nephews, little or younger sisters, little or younger brothers, etc. Littles are usually more submissive but not always.
- What does a little do, exactly?:
The whole idea behind being a little is to enjoy parts of childhood that have long been let go of since aging into adulthood. Many littles enjoy relaxing with coloring books, using a pacifier or sippy cup, or watching cartoons. These are the types of people who generally want to give up a little bit of the adult aspects of their lives to someone else, who they would trust deeply, to take on for a little while. They crave affection and need nurturing, and often can be described as dependent when paired with a suitable Caregiver.
- So, how are relationships? Are all of these relationships just a Daddy and a little girl?
Many people already in a Big/little relationship of some sort aren't seeking more relationships; however, these are not strictly monogamous relationships. A little could very well have both a Daddy and a Mommy, brothers or sisters, and even cousins in some cases. Just like any other type of relationship, people have their own needs and desires and mold their relationship(s) to meet those things. As long as everyone in the dynamic is a consenting adult then everything is alright.
We're all unrelated, consenting adults though!
Some Big/little relationships are nonsexual. The little would like to be in what is called littlespace
(with their toys and cartoons, for example) and just enjoy the time they have in that type of freedom while being watched over by someone safe.
Some Big/little relationships are sexual. The little would like to also interact with their Big in a sexual manner while also engaging in littlespace
activities (like watching cartoons and playing with toys). This is pretty self-explanatory in a way, but, as with anything else, everyone's needs and desires are different so there are variations of what sexual manner may mean.
This dynamic is very strongly against things like child involvement, incest, or child abuse. If you ever encounter a person that says they are looking for one of those listed things (child involvement or true incest) then please report them to your local authorities. Those people do not need to taint our wonderful community of loving, consenting adults who are just enjoying being themselves with other consenting adults.
I have used many generalized terms in this explanation for ease of understanding. If anything has been worded in offensive fashion please let me know so that I can make appropriate corrections.