[babyprincesscupcakes]

Hello there, everyone! My name is Amanda, I'm 22 years old, and I struggle with borderline personality disorder. As some of you may know, this disorder causes people to become very clingy and attached to an individual.

I currently am Daddy-less. I'm not really ok with it. I wish more than anything I had a Daddy to love me and care for me. It's extremely difficult making it through the day feeling so needy and having no one to take care of me.

I miss it. I used to have a Daddy, and I don't anymore. However, he and I are very close friends and he still treats me like his little at times. It makes it difficult for me to let go.

On the flip-side, I know it won't work. I want someone new-- but I don't want to be desperate. I just want someone worth my time, ya' know?

So...back to my original question, if you guys have any advice for me, it would be greatly appreciated.

[thepinkprettykitty]

i can't do anything to help the daddy sitution, but i am also a little and i would be happy to be a friend/ear to listen/shoulder to lean on! c:

[Journey2happiness]

I also have BPD, I'm alway here if you need to someone to talk to you can find ways to help, just ask me how

[Journey2happiness]

I also have BPD, I'm alway here if you need to someone to talk to you can find ways to help, just ask me how

[FishyOrange]

I have bpd as well so I totally know these feelings.

I don't have a caregiver but I'm pretty ok with it at the moment. I wouldn't be comfortable talking to someone about it to be honest.

[Tookmyname]

As a daddy searching for my princess I could listen and maybe help if you wanted to talk..... I also tend to get very attached and clingy but from the daddy side of things I have forced myself with great difficulty to slow down and make sure it's the right person. Makes it very frustrating because I want it so bad. But in the end I know it'll be worth it

[firefighterdad]

Well I'm going to take a stab at this. BPD usually stems from early childhood experiences with abandonment, neglect, rejection, verbal and (this is a MAJOR precursor for BPD) physically intimate abuse. I'm a DD who suffered physically intimate abuse as a child and my fear and lack of control in that situation has lead to my desire to be dominant and the one in control, the protector. I've been in therapy for years dealing with my own ptsd and BPD issues. The BEST treatment I've come across for BPD is called dialectical behavioral therapy (I encourage you to look into it, especially the woman who developed it Marsha Linehan). It centers around client-therapist interactions and helps (us/me) to set appropriate boundaries while providing acceptance and validation of feelings and emotions. The only way (I found) to deal with fear and abandonment and dependence was to realize that emotions are real, valid, and important but they do not have to dictate my actions. Meditation also REALLY helps (especially for those who've been abused) to reconnect the mind & body and not live up in our heads so much sorry for the novel. Hope this helps some!