- 7 years ago
#22629
I have to agree with what Wren said... but shh, don't tell her I agree with her! The line: "Real life isn't as clean and perfect as any story" is very true and I think - I hope - answers your question.
Stories, be they true or made up, show what we want them to show. We want them to be entertaining, we want them to show how things can be. Like a fairytale. Where a story is true, we keep out the boring bits or the bits that don't show us in a good light. Where a story is made up, it's just that - it's just made up.
The world is made up of a huge number of different people - roughly 7.1 billion people actually! Every person is different. Even those that claim to be 'the same' for some reason are different. In our community, there are massively different personalities. Finding a caregiver (or finding a little) isn't as simple as finding somebody with the title. In the 'daddy' community (or in the 'little', the 'middles', the 'mummys', etc), the people are equally different. Some you may get on well with, some not. The key is to Goldilocks it - you gotta find the right fit. One that's not to hot, not too cold, not too soft, not too hard, not too sweet, not too salty. And that varies from person to person. Some people like their beds super soft, some people like their porridge super sweet.
So... most of the daddies out there will be a bad fit for you, just because of the vast different personalities out there. It takes patience (along with some perseverance) to try and find the right person for you.
Good luck. Trying to find the right person to share this part of your life with is a challenge. My advice would be to try and enjoy the journey, don't jump into anything. Make friends, chat to people, don't jump into anything and you never know, your fairy tale may be around the corner where you least expect it.