Read everything you can get.. about D/s relationships.. the lot.
It is especially important if your little is new to this too as you may not know what to expect of yourselves or each other. There are some things that are fairly unique to power exchange relationships, such as
the drop and
aftercare.
It can be a beautiful thing to share this exploration with someone, just remember to keep it safe. Keep those lines of communication open, these relationships can leave people very vulnerable.
Theres a lot of things you can explore and many questions you should ask.. here are a few that come to mind.
- Know your dynamic, are you going to be a guide, parent, master, owner, domme or a lover?
What is your little to you, how do you want her to act, is she just "child like" or does she prefer ageplay?
What are your limits, do you know hers?
Does she have any needs that you do not know about, have you asked?
How are you going to support each other, are you equipped to?
How can you encourage her little space mindset, how about you? What are you going to do in those times where life intervenes and you cannot "be there" in the desired way?
This might sound like a lot but when you have someone's life in your hands, when you are being entrusted with their happiness, you must be sure you can do right by them. If you cannot, you can learn, but you must be aware.
Here's a few of links you might find of interest:
A Little Understanding: Judge not what you have no desire to understand
Mommy & Daddy Doms and Little Girls & Boys
BeDeeSeM wiki
Submissive guide - Highly recommended website
Good luck
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