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What are some good rules to issue to my little girl (she's really a babygirl usually) in our relationship that will make me more of a Daddy Dom to her versus a regular Dom or just a plain vanilla boyfriend. I know she is sensitive and I don't want to end up being too harsh on her or holding her accountable for things that a little isn't typically used to being assigned. What Ddlg rules do you recommend?

I ended up finding some good general BeDeeSeM rules for Doms and subs. I figured I'd share what I found here in case anybody else is looking or can give feedback or advice...

• You will look after yourself and do what is necessary to maintain your physical and mental health.

• You will use your safewords without fear of judgement when you genuinely don't want to do something or when something just doesn't feel right.

• You will be open and honest with me at all times, while still being respectful, even if I may not like the answer.

• You will be in bed with the lights out by 11pm every night unless I say otherwise.

• You will wake up at a reasonable hour every morning.

• You will say good night to me every night, and good morning every morning.

• You will eat nutritious food and utilize vitamins and supplements if needed for health.

• You will exercise regularly.

• You will not smoke, do drugs, or drink liquor without my explicit permission.

• You will not drink more than two glasses of wine or beer per day.

• You will not touch yourself sexually without my permission.

• You will not whipcream without my permission.

• You will not talk to other Doms without my permission.

• You will not have physically intimate or romantic communications with others without my permission.

• You will tell me of your comings and goings and who you are with when outside of the home or having guests over to your residence.

• You will be sexually available to me at all times of the day or night, even when you are asleep.

• You will keep your sex hairless or trimmed.

• You will wear modest clothes when you go out of the home.

• You will call me Daddy when we are alone, at kink events, or with kink friends.

• You will call me by my given name when we are in public or with family or non-kink friends.

• You will not use foul language.

• You will not make purchases over $100 without my approval.

• You will not make plans that will affect me without my permission.

• You will not let others see you naked or your undergarments without my permission.

• You will complete all orders I give you in a timely manner.

• You will read all books and articles I give you in a timely manner.

• You will watch all talks, presentations, and lectures I give you in a timely manner.

• You will not watch more than 2 hours of TV, or 1 movie, per day without my permission.

If you have a job or are a student:

• You will arrive at your job or classes on time.

• You will perform your work to the best of your abilities.

• You will come directly home afterward, unless I say otherwise.

• You will be prepared to provide a detailed account of your work or school day if I ask.

Breaking any rules will result in punishment. The punishment will be proportionate to the severity of the infraction. Punishments will include:

• an explanation of which rule you broke and the specifics of how you broke it in this circumstance.

• one or more of the following:

• punishment spankings
• special burst denial
• temporary removal of privileges (such as television, movie, or video game time, desserts, etc)
• temporary removal of belongings (favorite stuffie, toys, clothing, etc)
• extra chores
• writing the broken rule repeatedly a number of times
• grounding (a removal of privileges such as television or movie watching, outings or events, personal phone access such as leisure texting, etc)

When it pleases me, I may exercise control over:

• what you wear
• what you eat
• when you go to sleep or wake up
• when you use the bathroom
• when you touch yourself
• when you whipcream
• your ability to look me in the eye (eye contact restriction)
• your ability to speak or make any noise
• your ability to move your body

Your rights:

• You have the right to use your safewords at any time without fear of judgement if you genuinely don't want to do something or if something just doesn't feel right.

• You have the right to contact family members, friends, other submissives, kink support groups, and mental and physical health professionals.

• You have the right to have friendships, hobbies, and social plans that don't include me, provided you keep me informed of your whereabouts and who you're with.

• You have the right to call for hold time (a suspension of power dynamic) at any time and talk with me as equals, and expect your feelings and opinions to be heard, acknowledged, and respected.

found this for ideas


Ok, first rule:
Always tell Daddy what’s on your mind.
Don’t keep things from me. I need to know what my babygirl is going through. Good, bad, whatever. Tell me. Daddy is here for you but he can’t read minds. I know you always tell me everything anyway but if we’re going to do this then it has to be honest and open right from the start.

Second rule:
Always tell Daddy what babygirl wants.
You’ll never be punished for asking.
If babygirl wants a spanking she doesn’t have to misbehave to get it (but I know she will). Sometimes Daddy will decide she needs a spanking or some cuddlefucking but babygirl is always encouraged to ask. Even if she just wants some relaxed snuggles with nothing else.

Third rule:
Daddy’s word is final.
You can argue, plead or beg but if I’ve made my mind up then arguing further will get you some very owie smacks. Or even worse, none at all.

Fourth rule:
Your special burst belong to Daddy now.
No whipcreaming without permission.
For every time you whipcream without permission I will make you edge as many times as I see fit without whipcreaming after.
Continued breaking of this rule will result in Daddy taking his whipcream from babygirl.

Fifth rule:
Manners at all times. Daddy understands this rule has certain conditions based on time/situation etc but I will not tolerate babygirl having no manners.

Sixth rule:
Teasing Daddy for naughty reasons is completely encouraged. Daddy wants cheeky messages, sneaky pics or words whispered in his ear whenever babygirl thinks of it.

Seventh rule:
Babygirl is allowed to have rules for Daddy. The door swings both ways and we are equal. Even if you are tied to my bed and I’m deep in your arse I still hold you equal to me.

Eighth rule:
Sometimes Daddy is going to need babygirl to hold him too. Not exactly a rule but it needs to be mentioned.

Ninth rule:
Trust Daddy.
All jokes aside Daddy is older and knows some things very well. Daddy won’t ever knowingly give you bad advice, poor judgement or just plain silly help. Your Daddy is not infallible but trust him.

Tenth rule:
Mistakes happen. We’re both human and there will be times when we make mistakes. We are to communicate, listen, learn, forgive and move on.

Eleventh rule:
Babygirl is encouraged to be the little she is as much as she wants. This isn’t something we do only in private and Daddy wants his babygirl to be free and comfortable to slip in to little space without worry she’ll be told off for it. There are of course situations it’s not ideal but Daddy trusts babygirl to use her judgement.

Twelfth and final rule:
Be Daddy’s babygirl.
Give Daddy everything you want to give and be His. As much as babygirl gives she’ll get back too.
Daddy will protect and love his babygirl forever and he wants His babygirl to be as cheeky, flirty, naughty, affectionate and loving as possible and he will give her the same in return.

ThatMan wrote:I ended up finding some good general BeDeeSeM rules for Doms and subs. I figured I'd share what I found here in case anybody else is looking or can give feedback or advice...

• You will look after yourself and do what is necessary to maintain your physical and mental health.

• You will use your safewords without fear of judgement when you genuinely don't want to do something or when something just doesn't feel right.

• You will be open and honest with me at all times, while still being respectful, even if I may not like the answer.

• You will be in bed with the lights out by 11pm every night unless I say otherwise.

• You will wake up at a reasonable hour every morning.

• You will say good night to me every night, and good morning every morning.

• You will eat nutritious food and utilize vitamins and supplements if needed for health.

• You will exercise regularly.

• You will not smoke, do drugs, or drink liquor without my explicit permission.

• You will not drink more than two glasses of wine or beer per day.

• You will not touch yourself sexually without my permission.

• You will not whipcream without my permission.

• You will not talk to other Doms without my permission.

• You will not have physically intimate or romantic communications with others without my permission.

• You will tell me of your comings and goings and who you are with when outside of the home or having guests over to your residence.

• You will be sexually available to me at all times of the day or night, even when you are asleep.

• You will keep your sex hairless or trimmed.

• You will wear modest clothes when you go out of the home.

• You will call me Daddy when we are alone, at kink events, or with kink friends.

• You will call me by my given name when we are in public or with family or non-kink friends.

• You will not use foul language.

• You will not make purchases over $100 without my approval.

• You will not make plans that will affect me without my permission.

• You will not let others see you naked or your undergarments without my permission.

• You will complete all orders I give you in a timely manner.

• You will read all books and articles I give you in a timely manner.

• You will watch all talks, presentations, and lectures I give you in a timely manner.

• You will not watch more than 2 hours of TV, or 1 movie, per day without my permission.

If you have a job or are a student:

• You will arrive at your job or classes on time.

• You will perform your work to the best of your abilities.

• You will come directly home afterward, unless I say otherwise.

• You will be prepared to provide a detailed account of your work or school day if I ask.

Breaking any rules will result in punishment. The punishment will be proportionate to the severity of the infraction. Punishments will include:

• an explanation of which rule you broke and the specifics of how you broke it in this circumstance.

• one or more of the following:

• punishment spankings
• special burst denial
• temporary removal of privileges (such as television, movie, or video game time, desserts, etc)
• temporary removal of belongings (favorite stuffie, toys, clothing, etc)
• extra chores
• writing the broken rule repeatedly a number of times
• grounding (a removal of privileges such as television or movie watching, outings or events, personal phone access such as leisure texting, etc)

When it pleases me, I may exercise control over:

• what you wear
• what you eat
• when you go to sleep or wake up
• when you use the bathroom
• when you touch yourself
• when you whipcream
• your ability to look me in the eye (eye contact restriction)
• your ability to speak or make any noise
• your ability to move your body

Your rights:

• You have the right to use your safewords at any time without fear of judgement if you genuinely don't want to do something or if something just doesn't feel right.

• You have the right to contact family members, friends, other submissives, kink support groups, and mental and physical health professionals.

• You have the right to have friendships, hobbies, and social plans that don't include me, provided you keep me informed of your whereabouts and who you're with.

• You have the right to call for hold time (a suspension of power dynamic) at any time and talk with me as equals, and expect your feelings and opinions to be heard, acknowledged, and respected.

What beautiful rules and structure

"You will tell me of your comings and goings and who you are with when outside of the home or having guests over to your residence."
"You will not make purchases over $100 without my approval."
Those seem incredibly creepy and borderline abusive and I would never in a million years consent to those. If the house is ours or if you make that money then okay but I have a job and you will not tell me hout to spend my money, daddy or not.

these area few of the ones that i have so far that i think is a good start that i am going to try out with my little.
1. daddy knows best
2. at least 2 square meals per day
3. daddy must approve of movies over pg13
4. no cussing unless there is an appropriate reason to (reason will be approved by daddy)
5. try to be the best you you can be
6. tell daddy if something is wrong or bothering you
7. follow your passion and never let anyone tell you that you arent good enough
8. with everything you do, do the best you can. daddy will never ask any more of you than for you to do your best

I enjoyed reading everyone’s different rules. As for the structured BeDeeSeM TPE portion, I don’t think it is abuse. Prior to implementation, the two consenting adults must (should) sign a contract. Many people want total power exchange (TPE) as part of their DDlg life. I personally like being free of having to do adult stuff. I’ve been there and done that lol. I greatly enjoy being in my little space with no care in the world, because I know Daddy will and WANTS to take care of it.

Those rules aren't for everyone, but keep in mind for some subs they actually enjoy their dom having such control over their life. It's only abusive when the dom starts to do things that were not agreed to by both parties.
That list of rules is more like a guide than something you have to follow. It's there to pick and choose from as well as get ideas for your own rules.

As for myself, my caregiver hasn't set me too many rules since they can only keep track of so many at a time. What we do have is important though, such as brushing my teeth, eating properly and some cute things like holding their hand when we cross the road.

Caregivers are more about nurturing and making sure the little is healthy rather than the sub serving their master, though remember it is different for each couple.