[xnotyourbabyx]

I've told my bf everything I want out of a ddlg relationship. I need rules and punishments and for him to be a daddy to me in a lot of ways. He says he's down with anything but doesn't really take any initiative when it comes down to actually being a daddy. Not sure if he doesn't know where to start or he's just being lazy, or (excuse my language) being a bleep about it. I give him so many chances to do something daddy-like, (such as giving bratty attitude sometimes so he'll punish me, giving him the upper hand in situations, doing little things to make him in charge, ect.), but sometimes he'll just get annoyed with me and brush it off it seems. I want him to actually start being my daddy. It bothers me that it seems like he's not really trying. How do I get it out of him? Or make him more comfortable?

[LittleDoveBlue]

First things first, you ought to communicate with him about what exactly you want. If he's new to this it makes since that he may not be sure how to punish you and instill rules. He may not even be comfortable with it. Speak with him more about which punishments you enjoy, or which rules you like. And when and how you'd like to see him dole them out.

Also, not everyone is made for the BeDeeSeM dynamic. Dont fault him for not doing it "properly" when its just as likely he's just not the Daddy Dom type after all. Which is fine, however upsetting, because you didn't start your relationship with the dynamic in mind, I'm sure.

If he doesn't know much about BeDeeSeM or CG/l I'd suggest giving him some links to research, or, if he's up for it, having him go on a forum and hear from other Caregivers about their relationships with their littles.

I hope this works out for you both.

[Daddyslove4you]

You can't "make" someone be your Daddy Dom. It's something that is naturally in us. The desire to look after, and care for our Littles. If you have to tell him how to punish you, then you're the dominant one. Not him...

[xnotyourbabyx]

I've told him everything I want in mind and he's done his research. I did come into the relationship wanting him to be my daddy

[xnotyourbabyx]

I don't bother him much about it if he doesn't cause I don't want to hurt his feeling