[JuneStar]

Does a Ddlg have to involve BeDeeSeM aspects?

I'm kind of torn on the subject. I once saw a group for "Gentle Daddies and Sweet Littles" who felt that they weren't involved with much BeDeeSeM as a part of their Ddlg relationship. Daddy does take on a dominant, caregiver role that would indicate that there is some level of control or, well, dominance over the little. So...maybe they don't spank or something but, really, Daddy is still more dominant over the little so it is BeDeeSeM...right?

Thoughts? Serious question.

[Magnus]

Personally i've never been into the BeDeeSeM scene. Ageplay has always struck me as more of a... shall i say "agreeable" environment? True there are spanking and things but the main just of BeDeeSeM is one partner to inflict pain and the other to enjoy it. Aside from spanking or maybe making the little forcfully go potty, i've never really seen or heard of ageplay willingly and regularly inflict pain on the little.

Seeing as i am not personally in an AB relationship i could be mistaken, however.

[dbg1919]

BeDeeSeM does not always involve pain, although it typically does. In my opinion any relationship where there is a total power exchange (regardless of the length of time) can be classified as BeDeeSeM. I am sure there are others who would disagree, but that is the great thing about BeDeeSeM, you can define it any way you want, and do whatever makes you happy. Don't get too hung up on labels, every BeDeeSeM relationship is different. I say do what makes you and your partner happy and don't worry about the label