- 8 years ago
#10625
I'm so tired of caregivers I have met, I'm sorry if you are different but my opinion of all of you has been so warped.
I don't know how many times i have told a caregiver that i have been hurt and need to go slow that I don't want to rush into anything. I also cannot count the amount of times I have then heard the same tripe line 'I totally understand let's get to know one another' then not even 2 hours later he is asking me to tell him in detail what I'm wearing under my clothes.
Im not going to lie, but I lost my temper. I told him that 'normally I don't tell people I don't know what I'm wearing under my clothes' I thought that would end the matter but then he replied with 'Hmmm well that's the detail 'daddy' desires. I love intimate detail.'. I was speechless because I had thought that maybe maybe someone finally understood that I wanted to go slow I didn't want to have my heart ripped out by another user or abuser so I got mad and said this 'Yes but if you arnt someone's daddy, it's not exactly your right. That's the problem. Because if every daddy you meet wants intimate details then your just telling random people you don't know and who don't care about you abiut your private parts. It dosnt happen outside of kink and I don't see how a kink relationship should have different rules, it's still a relationship, if I met someone in kink on the street and they liked the look of me if they asked about my underthings I don't think I would be too happy to answer.'
I truly don't think any caregiver i have met either cares or understands what I meant by that. Just because it is kink and intense does not mean it isn't a real relationship, most people don't do kink 24/7 there is more than kink in their relationships, I wouldn't ever talk to some random daddy dom coming up to me in person and demanding to know what I was wearing because I am submissive and he is dominant.
Your dominant, that does not mean you deserve or have the right to be dominant over every little that passes your way. It every little told or showed her intimate details with every daddy dom there wouldn't be a point it isn't special anymore not only that a little should only be showing her daddy those things not just random people. If that is your thing fine, but I should have a right to not have to show/tell every candidate daddy that comes my way.
This isn't even all that bothers me, I know littles can be just as bad but I don't want to start dating someone 2 days after meeting them, it isn't realistic and it never lasts because once they get to know you then it either dosnt work or dosnt last long, I once let my boundaries down and agreed to date someone after 4 days. Know what happened? He pretended to be single and have cancer and guilted me after months of treating me like crap. Why should I rush into a relationship because a caregiver dosnt have patience? I want to protect myself make sure in getting into something safe sane and consenual. Wtf the firetruck happened to that? What happened to safe sane and consesual because i don't feel like daddy doms even need consent anymore as long as we Do what they want and they get their desires met
I met a guy the other night which woukdnt take no for an answer he kept forcing himself upon me and telling me it was okay we were meant to be together.
I told him that what he was doing if it was in real life would be forced encounters/assault just because so much of it is online dosnt make it okay!
I leave with this last comment:
'*sigh* Sorry I hate hate hate having to be like that. Its just every person I have met feels like they have some tight to me because I'm submissive, I'm a person too and i have gotten really firetrucked over, I'm just really tired of being treated that way because they are dominant and have desires and I'm submissive and because they show a little bit of interest I should have to bend over to their whims? Littles can be the same and it's not fair'
Sometimes I want to quit, it was so much easier being just a sub and ignoring the little part of me, i may be a little but I have an adult brain I can think in full sentences and can make my own choices, I want a dominant daddy not someone who will use Domination to get off and then leave because they feel they deserve the right.
Sorry if this makes people mad I'm just so upset because the last 6 Daddy doms I have met have ruined it for me
I don't know how many times i have told a caregiver that i have been hurt and need to go slow that I don't want to rush into anything. I also cannot count the amount of times I have then heard the same tripe line 'I totally understand let's get to know one another' then not even 2 hours later he is asking me to tell him in detail what I'm wearing under my clothes.
Im not going to lie, but I lost my temper. I told him that 'normally I don't tell people I don't know what I'm wearing under my clothes' I thought that would end the matter but then he replied with 'Hmmm well that's the detail 'daddy' desires. I love intimate detail.'. I was speechless because I had thought that maybe maybe someone finally understood that I wanted to go slow I didn't want to have my heart ripped out by another user or abuser so I got mad and said this 'Yes but if you arnt someone's daddy, it's not exactly your right. That's the problem. Because if every daddy you meet wants intimate details then your just telling random people you don't know and who don't care about you abiut your private parts. It dosnt happen outside of kink and I don't see how a kink relationship should have different rules, it's still a relationship, if I met someone in kink on the street and they liked the look of me if they asked about my underthings I don't think I would be too happy to answer.'
I truly don't think any caregiver i have met either cares or understands what I meant by that. Just because it is kink and intense does not mean it isn't a real relationship, most people don't do kink 24/7 there is more than kink in their relationships, I wouldn't ever talk to some random daddy dom coming up to me in person and demanding to know what I was wearing because I am submissive and he is dominant.
Your dominant, that does not mean you deserve or have the right to be dominant over every little that passes your way. It every little told or showed her intimate details with every daddy dom there wouldn't be a point it isn't special anymore not only that a little should only be showing her daddy those things not just random people. If that is your thing fine, but I should have a right to not have to show/tell every candidate daddy that comes my way.
This isn't even all that bothers me, I know littles can be just as bad but I don't want to start dating someone 2 days after meeting them, it isn't realistic and it never lasts because once they get to know you then it either dosnt work or dosnt last long, I once let my boundaries down and agreed to date someone after 4 days. Know what happened? He pretended to be single and have cancer and guilted me after months of treating me like crap. Why should I rush into a relationship because a caregiver dosnt have patience? I want to protect myself make sure in getting into something safe sane and consenual. Wtf the firetruck happened to that? What happened to safe sane and consesual because i don't feel like daddy doms even need consent anymore as long as we Do what they want and they get their desires met
I met a guy the other night which woukdnt take no for an answer he kept forcing himself upon me and telling me it was okay we were meant to be together.
I told him that what he was doing if it was in real life would be forced encounters/assault just because so much of it is online dosnt make it okay!
I leave with this last comment:
'*sigh* Sorry I hate hate hate having to be like that. Its just every person I have met feels like they have some tight to me because I'm submissive, I'm a person too and i have gotten really firetrucked over, I'm just really tired of being treated that way because they are dominant and have desires and I'm submissive and because they show a little bit of interest I should have to bend over to their whims? Littles can be the same and it's not fair'
Sometimes I want to quit, it was so much easier being just a sub and ignoring the little part of me, i may be a little but I have an adult brain I can think in full sentences and can make my own choices, I want a dominant daddy not someone who will use Domination to get off and then leave because they feel they deserve the right.
Sorry if this makes people mad I'm just so upset because the last 6 Daddy doms I have met have ruined it for me