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Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |July 12th, 2016|, 11:45 pm
by miimii
I am very new to this dynamic and I wish I did know back then but my first time was not something I would like to remember. I recently found out about this lifestyle through curiosity. When I researched into being a little I realized that I was a little for I enjoyed many of the things that what describe a little. I would draw the line at abuse when any type of physical contact that can harm me is done without confirming if it may be used for a punishment or when done out of anger.

Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |July 25th, 2016|, 11:59 am
by princ3ssbunbun
The line between abuse and BeDeeSeM is and always should be very clear between you and your partner. Its always about consent! Consent is always always always what makes something BeDeeSeM versus abuse. Talk to your partner about what's okay and what's not and ALWAYS have a safe word!!!!


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Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |August 5th, 2016|, 12:00 am
by Kashalita
I've always been very submissive sexually and over time I realized that I was attracted to older men or men who had kids of their own.
I love pleasing my partner in whatever he wanted, but I've never enjoyed being hurt or humilatrd- it had to come from live-action and at the same time my personal fantasies involved being very young.
Recently I discovered that I could have it all in a Dd/bg dynamic.


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Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |August 7th, 2016|, 2:10 am
by TinyRose
What is your little definition of true abuse and where is the line drawn?
For me it becomes abuse when its no longer consensual, a yes last night is not a yes this morning, you should always ask whats okay and whats not okay before any "play time". If I wanna be slapped in the face right now to the point I'm yelling "Slap me slap me please!" then you can slap me, but if I'm not expressing any want for it, then its not okay. If I want slaps, but don't want them after a certain point, that should be respected and if it goes further than what I'm comfortable with, then it becomes abuse.

Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |September 10th, 2016|, 1:22 am
by AmyBaby
I read about adult babies when i was 12 and knew it appealed to me but we somewhat creeped out by news casts and documentaries in youtube that i watched and combined with the odd name i didn't like and some backlash from my family, i abandoned it. And so i turned 17, had sex, Turned 18 and then 19 and entered into my first very serious relationship (like engaged and talking about marriage and kids type serious) and we had a lot of problems and i have some emotional scars left over but looking back on that, I picked a dominant male which i liked but he used his dominance for anger and not for love and really that was the root of the issue so I ended it and turned 20, and shortly before 21 i decided to look some more into AB because i have come back to it many times and never acted on it. only this time i stumbled really on the term littlespace which lead to the term little and i identify so so much more with those than i do with adult baby. Maybe because my little age is about 2-3 or maybe because of negative connotations but either way i had a name and a new love for it and decided to online date and met someone and for the first time in a long time i feel accepted, understood, loved, cherished, and overall i feel like i'm not hiding anymore

When it comes to littlespace and BeDeeSeM in general, I drawn the line when partners are no longer being respected. You might talk about a smack in the face before you engage in play or you might smack the sub and then ask if they liked it. I think i'd draw the line when a partner has said clearly that they are not enjoying that aspect of the play and would like if it stopped and the other refuses to stop. Like calling a safe word and someone ignoring it. And i always think its a good idea to discuss new things either beforehand if you are thinking about it before or as a follow up because it gives the sub that time to say if they liked something or not. It avoids those things. I think a sub should always feel respected and trust the dom enough to say anything they need to.

Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |August 4th, 2018|, 5:08 am
by babyboyo
To answer your second question, (skipping the first, lol) abuse is when someone is being non-consensually hurt. Consenting to physical punishments, like being slapped, means a discussion in which both parties agree to what will happen and how it will happen. If a dom/domme uses any form of physical violence against a sub without proper consent, that is abuse. There is no grey area.

Re: A question or two; for littles old or new! From a Daddy Dom

Posted: |August 11th, 2018|, 7:34 pm
by Sky
hello and yes I have always been interested in the BeDeeSeM lifestyle and not all forms are painful or violent you and your partner make it to suit each others needs not everything suits everyone
to me a D/s relationship is a very deep emotional connection that forms around a trust between those two people to answer your second question in my opinion D/s crosses the line when the trust is broken between the two people involved a good Dom knows his partner and he or she will know when they have had enough or a line ahs been crossed
and a good sub will and can be open and honest enough to speak her feelings without being afraid of abuse