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Littles,

I am new to this and have dabbled in control aspects in the past. I am curious if I can get any advice in the beginning. My biggest general questions are:

What mistakes have the Daddies of your past made?
What are your favorite things?

I know people are normally reticent to share this kind of information. And I am sorry for any hurt feelings that are brought up but I want to be good to my future little and would like to learn from those that know it best.

The Mystic One

hmm. I think one of the biggest mistakes was letting repeated naughtiness (breaking the same rule over and over) go unpunished. The first few times is alright because it's like a warning but after that I'm like "alright well i'll just be over here breaking this rule that i'm not even sure is a rule anymore". It does sometimes come off as not caring.
My favorite things? I'm assuming you mean that my Daddy/previous daddy's have done. Hm It's all about little things for me. Unique cute nicknames. Playing along with my little shenanigans (that was probably most favorite, it always made me giggle). And smaller things like reminding me to get my work done, it seems small but it reminds me that he cares. Just stuff like that


I'm sure you'll make a great daddy!

LittleAshiee,

Thank you for your response. This is exactly what I am looking for. I see the mistake of allowing the rules to be broken. When you allow someone to continually push pass boundaries you set the new precedence. I also like the cuteness. I like pet names. I have very few friends that I call by their names. Realizing that that is a different area it is interesting to see the correlations.

Thank you for your confidence. I look forward to being needed. It has been a long time.

Specific Questions

Is the DDlg thing an all the time thing or are there times when you do Big things?

Is it ok that a Daddy has things and times in his life that require the DDlg aspects to be hidden? Is keeping it private offensive?

Do you, as a little, feel that you support the emotional needs of a Daddy?

I know how this sounds but please understand I like to learn pretty much anything and everything. When I "learn" there are a lot of questions.

Also if I say something offensive please let me know. I am always putting my feet in my mouth through ignorance.

The Mystic One

I would love if his question got answered. I'm just starting to explore my little side and my partner wants to learn how to be a good Daddy.

Hello!
I think one of the biggest mistakes can be to assume DDlg is all about sex and a physical relationship. You can get asexual littles all the way through to those who only go into their little space before/during sex. For the most of us who are not little 24/7 I think it's important not to assume that when we are in littlemode it means we want a physically intimate interaction. It's very easy to assume this when you are new because we are under the same umbrella as other purely physically intimate adult interests, but a littles need for care and affection goes above and beyond a physical relationship.

As I touched on above, a lot of us aren't 24/7. Many have completely "normal" lives - jobs, social lives, even children. Being little, colouring, watching cartoons etc is the same kind of relief someone would have coming home from a hard day and playing video games or going to the gym etc. Some like to bring their little world into public and are happy to share with family and friends while others it is purely between daddy and little. This is the same for daddies. I can't stress enough that there's a massive spectrum in ddlg and privacy is something you would discuss with your little and work out what's best for you.

As for emotional support, I feel like it's an equal balance but just in different ways. A daddy is able to guide a little down the right path and comfort while a little will do all they can to make him happy and listen to his problems even if he uses big confusing words!

Each little and daddy are different, as is the dynamic between them. If you're open and honest about what you would like to get out of a ddlg relationship then I'm sure you'll find the perfect little for you!

Bunny-fluff,

I am not sure I can convey the relief you have provided me. In my honesty I was wondering about the sex thing but again was not comfortable enough to ask. It is good to hear that there is such a large spectrum. It also sound as in any relationship communications is the key. Thank you very much.

The Mystic One

I appreciate the input so far. I see that I have the compassion and the listening abilities to hopefully make someone happy. That is one of the things that interested me in the beginning was the idea of a caregiver. Be it that or the title of Daddy the meaning is the same. I like to help people in many different aspects of my life. Recently this desire to help has been abused and has cost me dearly. Hence the question about emotional support for the Daddy. Every relationship is reciprocal in nature. 'Look into the abyss and the abyss looks back...'

themysticone wrote:Specific Questions

Is the DDlg thing an all the time thing or are there times when you do Big things?

Is it ok that a Daddy has things and times in his life that require the DDlg aspects to be hidden? Is keeping it private offensive?

Do you, as a little, feel that you support the emotional needs of a Daddy?

I know how this sounds but please understand I like to learn pretty much anything and everything. When I "learn" there are a lot of questions.

Also if I say something offensive please let me know. I am always putting my feet in my mouth through ignorance.

The Mystic One

To me the dd/LG isn't a full time thing although I am fairly childish for most of the time. I do big things when I am suppose to although I am also extremely forgetful.

I personally don't care if it's a hidden thing, I wouldn't be offended if my partner didn't want me to call them daddy/mommy outside of the house. As long as they are respectful and polite I'm all good.

I've never had a daddy so I don't know if I would, but according to exs I'm extremely loving and caring so I hope that I would be enough for my daddy.

One thing I don't like is when someone who claims to be a dom assumes they are your daddy automatically just because you are single and starts being super physically intimate with you. It's really rude and disrespectful.

Olivine,

Thank you for your reply. I am still learning but I believe the dynamic here has taught me a few things. One is that there are as many differences as there are questions. I believe the overall response and consensus is to talk and listen to your partner. I mean really listen. If there is something you want that your partner does not provide you have to ask them. If they say no you have to understand that they are entitled to that as well. Maybe there is another person out there that is more suited for you. People who just assume you are theirs are never right and/or good. Like everything in life you have to earn it. I know I skewed a little there but I have found and I have learned...

Mystic