- 8 years ago
#10633
Something I was a bit curious about since I am very new to all of this. I often see this whole community lumped into the BeDeeSeM category, but for me it doesn't seem to fit and I sometimes feel out of place because of that. I love the aspect of a Mommy/Little dynamic and enjoy ageplaying but when I think of BeDeeSeM I always imagine some powerplay involved, there is someone in control, and someone being controlled and I don't know if I am just too narrowly defining BeDeeSeM or if I don't fit in that. I have nothing against it by any means but I don't really feel it's me.
For me I want a calming, attentive, and nurturing influence, someone who will share this dynamic with me, and the concepts of punishments, strictness, dommes, and all that just kinda intimidate me to be honest. I know there's a softer side to the BeDeeSeM lifestyle but in my case there's not really any darker side.
I am just kind of curious to get other people's perspective on this and if I really fit in here. I'd love to hear from other littles or caregivers who aren't really inclined towards those darker aspects of BeDeeSeM that I spoke of and prefer a different more nurturing approach?
For me I want a calming, attentive, and nurturing influence, someone who will share this dynamic with me, and the concepts of punishments, strictness, dommes, and all that just kinda intimidate me to be honest. I know there's a softer side to the BeDeeSeM lifestyle but in my case there's not really any darker side.
I am just kind of curious to get other people's perspective on this and if I really fit in here. I'd love to hear from other littles or caregivers who aren't really inclined towards those darker aspects of BeDeeSeM that I spoke of and prefer a different more nurturing approach?