Well Vanilla sex inst for everyone. I enjoy it but I prefer it rougher. Are you thinking that you would prefer to be a little only during sex or do you want that dynamic for your whole relationship? Do you currently have a relationship where DD/LG would work? Do you think your partner would be a good DD/CG?
I know with me that is how I found it out. I was on tumblr and I had never seen anything with BeDeeSeM as I was uneducated about it. I also found some memes and it was a huge epiphany of "omg, there are other people that feel the way I feel" I started reading up on it and I guess the only way to explain it is content and happy. It's pretty hard to explain if you are a little or not as it is a decision that you have to make. No one can really make that decision for you. Also your DD/CG is YOUR decision, you cannot let someone tell you they are going to be yours. You have to be comfortable and trust them completely because littles can get hurt very easily as we trust a lot. You can also message me here if you want to chat more