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Southend_Loyal
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Re: Dissappearing Daddies - Daddy Dom Perspective

Postby Southend_Loyal » 11 months ago

I don't even HAVE a Daddy yet and I'm worried about him leaving already!
However, my healthy self esteem will probably help me and like BigPapa said...it wouldn't be personal.
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Re: Dissappearing Daddies - Daddy Dom Perspective

Postby JackR » 9 months ago

for some it may be "personal", for some it maybe "I've found someone else" but ultimately they made a choice, not a good one IMHO, but a choice none the less.
It's about the ability to summon the courage to say good bye, some guys find the feelings too intense, some find the feelings too awkward or that they perceive that someone has found out their little secret, the people I have met, who are real in this alt. lifestyle don't get spooked off easily, for them "it is what it is".
Star is correct, whether vanilla or kink, relationships come and go for a variety of reasons, we have to accept this and move on with our feelings hurt or our egos bruised, but one thing is for sure the community rallies when one of us is hurt, that's the reason we gravitate toward like minded people... security and understanding

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Re: Dissappearing Daddies - Daddy Dom Perspective

Postby Kashalita » 9 months ago

Here's my two cents as a new little with a Daddy who recently took a month off. We've only been together for a few months and he still texted me occasionally, but now he's back.
I personally think it's a lot of pressure to be a Daddy even if they like it. But when he's responsible for my well being he doesn't feel like he can let down his role to get support from me, to have me take care of him.
I think he got overwhelmed by the responsibility and didn't have someone to turn to so needed a break to get his head together.
Maybe someone less secure in themselves would feel all that responsibility and just decide to back off completely.
Its a huge commitment to be in charge of someone else's happiness.



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Re: Dissappearing Daddies - Daddy Dom Perspective

Postby lordskella » 1 month ago

There's a lot of commitment there in the form of almost constant contact and affection. That can be daunting for some, especially if they're dealing with a 24/7 little. That responsibility and attention can become overwhelming for some, tenfold if they aren't open about their dd/lg interests with the people around them.


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Re: Dissappearing Daddies - Daddy Dom Perspective

Postby 3dDomDD » 1 month ago

I'm currently reading a book called HOME COMING by John Bradshaw. It's a therapy book about reclaiming your inner child. What's clear is that all people have an inner child. In a well adjusted adult the adult ego state and inner child ego state are fully integrated. But that is VERY rare. What this means is that the mast majority of men - especially Daddy's might have their own segregated inner child. Since the inner child is essentially the origin of Little's - more or less one and the same - it means many Daddy's have Little's too. Put it another way, Daddy's like to protect Little's because they are protecting their own little by proxy. The problem is, it doesn't work. They need down time to be their own version of little. So they burn out, go away, then start over. I'm only just starting to research this so I haven't quite joined all the dots. But it seems to me that Daddy's may need to explore whether or not they have their own little and if so, what they should do about it. I have one. Two actually. I'm a Daddy with two Little's or Inner Child's. I'm learning how to self care but I KNOW I cannot Daddy 24/7 because even though I have a very strong compulsion to Daddy, I also have my childlike moments and I need to know I can have them. It might be an idea to explore this in more detail. To ask how many Daddy's occasionally feel - for want if a better word - needy. And to see if this can become a fully-fledged caregiver topic to make sure Daddy needs are met so they're less inclined to run away.

By the way. I'm not saying this is the only reason. But I do suspect it is one of them. And I am not aware of its having been addressed.


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