Sexualized littles into DDLG

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JuneStar
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Sexualized littles into DDLG

Postby JuneStar » 1 year ago

Anyone feel overly sexualized?


To the point where they're saying, "Maybe I'm not a little..." because of the sexualization of the dynamic?


Don't get me wrong. I'm not a nonsexual little. Not at all. Daddy and I often have special playtime.


And, yes, I know nonsexual littles exist. Do you know how many I've actually encountered though? Less than 5. How many sensual littles have I encountered? Oh, hundreds, easily.


Going through tumblr and twitter though...I feel like I'm lost and don't belong sometimes. I'm not into so much...adult art. So much...adult things. I kind of feel like relations is a "Big" thing and, even though I'm little during it all, Daddy babies me and praises me for doing things big girls would do. I've had 'vanilla' relations and it's draining because it's such a "Big" act to me. Daddy and I have a different kind of caregiver/little dynamic though. Maybe we're just the oddballs here.


Maybe I feel like I don't belong because I have 0 interest in adult art? I have 0 interest in being spanked or watching girls be spanked or choked by their scene-Daddies? I have 0 interest in most BDSM things. It's like 99.9% of everything 'little' on these social media sites are relations or sex-driven.


I get messages from Daddies. It's always straight to some form of relations talk. Never a friendship interest of any type. Never a platonic conversation about the scene or life. A prompt for sensual talk of some sort or they have no interest in communicating. Why don't Daddies want just-friends too? And why aren't littles sending me messages, wanting to be friends?


(And I've looked. I desperately wanted someone around my biological and little age to do gift exchanges with throughout the year but I couldn't find anyone interested in talking to me and getting to know things I liked so we could buy for each other.)


Nothing wrong with sensual conversation/roleplay, of course, but it' just seems so...


...adult.


And I feel like I'm not an adult, really.


And I had some idea that most littles didn't feel adult either?


I thought we wanted to ramble on about our favoritest candy ever and how our stuffies come to life when we're not watching? How we want to live with Peter Pan and sleep in a pile of the softest stuffies ever?


Do I just not really belong?


What's wrong with me?

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Chantilly
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Re: Sexualized littles into DDLG

Postby Chantilly » 1 year ago

Star, I understand what your saying.

There are a few none sexualised littles around. From what I have seen.

I have noticed a lot of littles who seem to want to be spanked, choked or other pretty heavy BDSM requests. Sometimes it's rather shocking. I can see why adult art doesn't appeal to you I get it 100%! Seems like having a blog on Tumblr or Wordpress equates to don't write, just post adult art and re-distribute. I notice that even well meaning blogs start out with writings and little to no pictures only to have a glutton of highly sexualized grower women portrayed in different sensual ways all perfect bodies ...
I think your addressing many issues and some that people don't really want to face, but I am glad you have brought it up. Because honestly, I don't think it truly portrays most of the Little and Daddy, Caregiver/Mommy dynamics at all. And there fore it's hard to find an accurate representation. But maybe that's just me?

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Chantilly
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Re: Sexualized littles into DDLG

Postby Chantilly » 1 year ago

I also feel like anytime you announce that you are a little, the inner need combined with the strongest desires for Daddy's come out, it's so predatoryal it's scary! It's like <pounce> *attach* <[abtain]>. Wait, what happened to getting to know your little? Like dating??? I have always thought that when 'meeting' there should be mini dates only, and group dates, then a Daddy should announce his intentions publicly. And then the real dating begins.
Mini dates: short sweet fun, lasting 15-45 minutes, it's the getting to know you part. Like coffee, or a short walk or showing a little your favorite place(s) of a city. Doing something free like volunteering? Things that don't cost more then time and gas and a small amount of funds.

Then group dates, other little late see things and are good at sorting things out, plus friends are always a plus! A few of these and a little should feel better about meeting。

A true Daddy is the shining example of chivalry, seems rare and hard to find how ever this can go a very, very long way. Daddy's need to remember, as little we want nothing more then to be heard, loved, and understood. We understand how hard it is for Daddies to not have littles. We do understand the struggle. How ever, it's important to remember that miss-treating little can do far more damage then any of us would like to admit. I understand the drive is strong the urges primal, we are human beings too, and we can be hurt and broken very easily.

PrincessKitten86
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Re: Sexualized littles into DDLG

Postby PrincessKitten86 » 1 year ago

I agree that it's overwhelming, and it seems like the sensual nature of it takes over on social media. There are a lot of "Daddies" out there who arnt really Daddies they just pretend and its the worst it's like just because I'm a little does not mean I am your little. So I just want you to know. There is nothing wrong with you at all, you do belong it's the guys out there who jump right to let's have relations that don't belong. I'm a little and I'd love to be your friend and we can most definitely talk about our favoritest movies, snacks, colors and our stuffies because I love my stuffies and really could use a little friend to talk to about this kind of stuff :)

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b1rian
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Re: Sexualized littles into DDLG

Postby b1rian » 1 year ago

Hi so im new to this too and I am a man and think been the role of a daddy is for me, iv been doing alot of research latly to find out more ( YouTube Google to name a few) hard enough to find stuff about it with out all the adult art in the middle of it,
Yes iv looked at lots of adult art ( you name it) but thinking about it it never really hit what I was looking for until i came across ddlg.
I hear what you are saying and understand, its not all about the relations and bondage and spanking I would see that as the daddies "treat" whereas the colouring and cartoon r for the little and im glad you brought it up cos this is the kind of information iv been searching the web for and hope there are more like u to talk to about it

princessStinky
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Re: Sexualized littles into DDLG

Postby princessStinky » 1 year ago

I do like punishments, like spanking, or if mommy ties me up, but im not interested into any sensual activitys, so i and my mommy expanded my little time to 24/7 except there are things, that need me to be adult


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