- 5 years ago
#51115
Hi, I disagree a lot of what this comment suggests, and I would like to pull it apart a bit if I may. I mean no offence to the author of the post and I am just trying to get my opinion across, not start an argument or anything like that. I love and appreciate all of you, best wishes <3
“It's who somebody is at their core.
It's their personality.”
being a little can be part of ones personality, but not necessarily the whole core of their personality.
For example, a transgender person considers their trans identity as a part of them, not who they are as a whole, there are multiple sides and parts of ones personality. Saying that any one thing could take up the whole of who they are is saying something kind of impossible. Someone could identify as a little, and also identify as many other unrelated things.
“It should never be considered simply a way to relieve stress or have fun. It's not a hobby or a "side" of someone”
Some age regressors simply choose to participate in the activities they do, because it makes them feel good... BeDeeSeM and ddlg also can just simply be a hobby that you are your partner participate in to strengthen the relationship or D/s.
There is also a thing called “forced age regression” in BeDeeSeM, where it’s more of a form of humiliation-play to be pushed into a childish headspace. This is a smaller part of the community, yes, but it’s still there.
“Those are from people who are misidentifying themselves as belonging in a community they do not actually belong within. In the community they're really labeled as "fake" but I don't think they're malicious.”
You can’t misidentify yourself as a little really... anyone can age regress, age play, and participate in ddlg for whatever reason they like, whether they feel it’s more of a personality trait or something that is relaxing or fun. Labeling people as “fake” littles and saying they do not belong in the community is basically the equivalent of gatekeeping, and it could really hurt some people’s feelings, and feel like they are not accepted.
“I think they just don't understand who the REAL littles are and how it isn't easy being little, it isn't a choice to just be a little. “
As stated above, the idea that there are “fake” and “real” littles is harmful to the community.
Whilst it true that some people do not choose to be little, and it’s somewhat inherent. I believe that others may choose to regress and ageplay for a variety of reasons. These people should still be accepted as part of the community.
“I'm guessing that a large portion of the visible/active "littles" online are only "playing a game" or "playing as a character" to "relieve stress" or "have fun" in their spare time and not necessarily identifying (key word) as being this personal identity. They are not actually little.”
Ageplay, by nature (and by the word “play) is about playing a role. Yes, for some it is far more than that and it is part of their identity, but for others it is not. Like Petplay, some people just do this for fun.
[Mary]”does not feel equipped or capable of handling many adult responsibilities that she is expected to face as a biologically 30 year old woman. Mary feels lost as an adult, and is often misplaced from her biological peers due to her naivety, disinterest in typical adult activities, and difficulty in relating to their "boring" talk about their families.......She finds herself constantly in need of external guidance and structure..........Maintaining her adult persona is challenging, overwhelming, and confusing most of the time, and Mary wishes she could be with her "mental peers" again who are biologically between 5-7 years old. Mary is a little and is a part of the cgl community......“Mary wants to be identified as a child again because it's most comfortable and just feels right just like Jack wants to be identified as the gender his birth body did not reflect at one point”
Although we as littles feel and act the way a child does. We are adults and most of us live as adults for the majority of the time we aren’t in littlespace. Although a lot of us sometimes have trouble hiding our little sides and childish behaviour when it’s not appropriate in society, that does not mean we aren’t capable functioning as adults. Most of us aren’t in a constant struggle against society to accept us not conforming with expected adult behaviour. Also, to want to be identified and treated as an actual child... is something strange. To be socially, let alone legally identified as a child would remove a lot of our privileges. If you seriously feel like you can’t function easily without society recognising you as a child, then that’s something to be worried about in my opinion.