- 7 years ago
#23888
What is wrong with me every time i get close to having a cg the abandon me is there something im doing wrong or is it just no one wants me
MWE WUV CHU
try waiting a little longer before getting closer This.
This. This. This.
Are you making them try to get closer to you? Are you really getting to know who they are--not WHAT they are? Are you having long, in-depth, and personal conversations with them so often that you feel like you're best friends before you two even move to the next stage into the Caregiver/little labels?
Make them work to have you and then give them the big payoff of being their little. Make them want you, chase you, and desire YOU. Not what you are but WHO you are. Not what you can offer but WHO you are. Not what you like but WHO YOU ARE.
I would also be careful of things like your signature -- are you saying things like, "Mwe wuv chu," ("I love you") without them having to earn that care? If so, why? Why are you throwing away that specialness so easily?
It's going to take days, weeks, and sometimes months to actually make it to the "relationship" label part. It is never going to take seconds, minutes, or hours--if it does then expect it to fizzle out just as quickly as it lit up. It isn't genuine love or care if you're meeting someone two hours before "falling in love" and devoting yourself to them because, honestly, you don't even know them yet.
I'm not saying that you are doing all of the things I've listed above but I'm looking through your posts and it feels like maybe you might be a little desperate. A lot of us have that desperation so I'm not saying you're bad for feeling lonely, but I am saying that you may not be guarding your heart as much as you should be. Really sit down and evaluate how you're going about all of this and try to make some--probably major--changes in your attitude and conversations you're having.
You are the only person that can protect yourself in these situations. Don't let your guard down because someone says they are good. Make them prove themselves worthy of your love, and make sure that you're equally as worthy of theirs.
Lastly, as just a reminder, not everyone you talk to is going to be a match for you and you need to keep that in mind. Just because someone is X and you are Y doesn't mean you two are automatically meant to be and should be together. For example, there a lot of straight brunette women who like men with blonde hair and of straight men with blonde hair who like women with brown hair but it doesn't mean that hair color and gender should be the only (or even primary) reasons people in those brackets should get together. That isn't a good foundation for a satisfying, healthy relationship. Ultimately, we are more (so much more) than just labels, titles, and names.