- 7 years ago
#26287
Happy Wednesday, folks! I'd like to kind of share my thoughts on something and then get some feedback.
Age play: Most of you have been in the LS long enough to know the general concept, but for arguments sake and the newbies I'll go into detail about what I mean. For me and I'd assume many others it's a mindset state of blissful regression. It is when I go to my "little space" and become a "little girl" who enjoys being a princess, cuddling with my stuffies, coloring, watching my favorite Disney/ children's movies, etc. Its a form of stress relief for me. It's where my cares and troubles as an adult are put to the back of my mind.
There's all kinds of littles. There's different degrees to which some littles regress into their little space. Some start off and are perfectly comfortable with coloring books and a stuffie or two. Some take it a little further and may use a sippy cup or pacifier as they relax in their onesie pajamas. Some dabble in the world of AB (adult baby diaper wearer).
There's no one right or wrong way to be a little, just like any other aspect of the general BeDeeSeM lifestyle and population. Of course, there's guidelines. There's lots of big words that define what many of us identify with and like, but there's also room for interpretation and what works for you personally as you explore what you do and do not like. That's the reason it's perfectly normal to have someone with hard limits. You can like some and/or most of it but you don't have to love it all.
For example: You maybe don't mind sippy cups but having a paci just doesn't feel comfortable for you. Or you love wearing footie pajamas (onesies) but diapers are a hard limit for you. Even to take it outside the world of DDLG/ CGL... You might not mind giving oral as a bit of foreplay but being face firetrucked or taking a load in/around your mouth face is a hard limit for you. You get the point...
One of the biggest ways that we define who we are as a little is by assigning ourselves an age that we identify with. Now, pick a kid that you watched grow up... maybe think back to your childhood or how your own child or niece/nephew/relative developed.
This is all flexible... but:
Diapers go from infancy to about age 2-3. Bottles go from infancy to about ages 1-2
Sippy cups are used for ages ranging from 1-5
Kids are usually in footie pajamas until I'd say maybe 4-5.
Potty training is done around ages 2-3.
Pacifiers are used from infancy to a wide range of ages (I've personally seen kids who have never used one; kids who gave it up when they gave their bottles up; to kids who used one well beyond "normal" up to like 5/6 years old.
Blankets and stuffies aren't usually grown out of until middle school IF they even are.
Coloring is enjoyed from kids ages 1-elementary school years (5-12) and beyond.
... the list surely goes on. There's so many aspects that it's hard to think of them all.
However, there's also a feeling. In intuition maybe? I don't know how to put my finger on one exact age. Everyone says in the adult and dating world that "you're as old as you feel" and "age is just a number"... but how do you pin it down? I usually just tell people when I'm asked or I'm doing in intro in a group that I'm between the ages of 5 to 9 (give or take). That's a big gap!
So... some thoughts to ponder:
1) What age do you typically identify with? How's you choose that age?
2) Why is there such an emphasis on "little age" in this LS? I get the "how old are you, where are you from?" small talk when meeting people but this is supposed to be a lifestyle that embraces diversity- even if that's in age. Should it maybe be less about "my little age is # years old" and maybe more about "my favorite things to do as a little are (_xyz__) but I really don't like or haven't been comfortable with trying (__xyz__).
3)Doms: do you look for a specific age? Does your little have a concrete number for an age?
4) What are some things that you do when you regress or that you see in your little when they're regressing that they developmentally grew out of and at what age did they? What age range do other kids? (Like when I said kids use sippy cups from approximately ages 1-5)
What other thoughts do you have about the actual AGE part of age play/ little space?
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Age play: Most of you have been in the LS long enough to know the general concept, but for arguments sake and the newbies I'll go into detail about what I mean. For me and I'd assume many others it's a mindset state of blissful regression. It is when I go to my "little space" and become a "little girl" who enjoys being a princess, cuddling with my stuffies, coloring, watching my favorite Disney/ children's movies, etc. Its a form of stress relief for me. It's where my cares and troubles as an adult are put to the back of my mind.
There's all kinds of littles. There's different degrees to which some littles regress into their little space. Some start off and are perfectly comfortable with coloring books and a stuffie or two. Some take it a little further and may use a sippy cup or pacifier as they relax in their onesie pajamas. Some dabble in the world of AB (adult baby diaper wearer).
There's no one right or wrong way to be a little, just like any other aspect of the general BeDeeSeM lifestyle and population. Of course, there's guidelines. There's lots of big words that define what many of us identify with and like, but there's also room for interpretation and what works for you personally as you explore what you do and do not like. That's the reason it's perfectly normal to have someone with hard limits. You can like some and/or most of it but you don't have to love it all.
For example: You maybe don't mind sippy cups but having a paci just doesn't feel comfortable for you. Or you love wearing footie pajamas (onesies) but diapers are a hard limit for you. Even to take it outside the world of DDLG/ CGL... You might not mind giving oral as a bit of foreplay but being face firetrucked or taking a load in/around your mouth face is a hard limit for you. You get the point...
One of the biggest ways that we define who we are as a little is by assigning ourselves an age that we identify with. Now, pick a kid that you watched grow up... maybe think back to your childhood or how your own child or niece/nephew/relative developed.
This is all flexible... but:
Diapers go from infancy to about age 2-3. Bottles go from infancy to about ages 1-2
Sippy cups are used for ages ranging from 1-5
Kids are usually in footie pajamas until I'd say maybe 4-5.
Potty training is done around ages 2-3.
Pacifiers are used from infancy to a wide range of ages (I've personally seen kids who have never used one; kids who gave it up when they gave their bottles up; to kids who used one well beyond "normal" up to like 5/6 years old.
Blankets and stuffies aren't usually grown out of until middle school IF they even are.
Coloring is enjoyed from kids ages 1-elementary school years (5-12) and beyond.
... the list surely goes on. There's so many aspects that it's hard to think of them all.
However, there's also a feeling. In intuition maybe? I don't know how to put my finger on one exact age. Everyone says in the adult and dating world that "you're as old as you feel" and "age is just a number"... but how do you pin it down? I usually just tell people when I'm asked or I'm doing in intro in a group that I'm between the ages of 5 to 9 (give or take). That's a big gap!
So... some thoughts to ponder:
1) What age do you typically identify with? How's you choose that age?
2) Why is there such an emphasis on "little age" in this LS? I get the "how old are you, where are you from?" small talk when meeting people but this is supposed to be a lifestyle that embraces diversity- even if that's in age. Should it maybe be less about "my little age is # years old" and maybe more about "my favorite things to do as a little are (_xyz__) but I really don't like or haven't been comfortable with trying (__xyz__).
3)Doms: do you look for a specific age? Does your little have a concrete number for an age?
4) What are some things that you do when you regress or that you see in your little when they're regressing that they developmentally grew out of and at what age did they? What age range do other kids? (Like when I said kids use sippy cups from approximately ages 1-5)
What other thoughts do you have about the actual AGE part of age play/ little space?
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