- 8 years ago
#12252
Okay, so i've been with my daddy for about 6 months now and we're long distance. I've really only just started to notice how he is literally the opposite of strict. That's not a big issue however, i've found myself needing some structure or else I kind of feel like I'm on my own and he's just there. Now this really got to me today. We recently established a new rule ( That I proposed) and I now have to ask for anything sweet that I want. I had asked but he was busy last night and he didn't reply so this morning I blew up his phone telling him how I was eating all of the sugar for breakfast. I had expected him to be upset but literally it blew over.
I'm so upset over it. I know he isn't not punishing me because he doesn't care, I think it's just because it's how he is but I feel like I need punishments and stuff.
Now everyone's gunna say "Talk to him about it" and yes that is the logical, SMART, thing to do. But I don't know how to. I have very lovely combination of things stopping me from doing so, they include, anxiety, being highly sensitive, being an empath and finally a literal fear of confrontation. What's an easy way that I can bring this up without like hurting him ( I know that I probably wouldn't since i'm trying to do what I need but again I can't help but think I would) but getting my point across and maybe helping him to understand why I need this and what exactly I want and need from him.
I know I shouldn't feel this way because communication is so so s important so it shouldn't matter but as much as I know that theres a bajillion other thoughts in my head telling me to just deal with it.
I'd appreciate any advice or tips soooo much!
I'm so upset over it. I know he isn't not punishing me because he doesn't care, I think it's just because it's how he is but I feel like I need punishments and stuff.
Now everyone's gunna say "Talk to him about it" and yes that is the logical, SMART, thing to do. But I don't know how to. I have very lovely combination of things stopping me from doing so, they include, anxiety, being highly sensitive, being an empath and finally a literal fear of confrontation. What's an easy way that I can bring this up without like hurting him ( I know that I probably wouldn't since i'm trying to do what I need but again I can't help but think I would) but getting my point across and maybe helping him to understand why I need this and what exactly I want and need from him.
I know I shouldn't feel this way because communication is so so s important so it shouldn't matter but as much as I know that theres a bajillion other thoughts in my head telling me to just deal with it.
I'd appreciate any advice or tips soooo much!